Scared, Helpless, Hopeless, Loss, Weight, Fear, Uncertainty, Disappointment, Anger, Paralyzed
These are all the words that my body has stored over the last several days.
As I sat down on Monday to record my weekly video blog, I just couldn’t follow through.
It’s taken me days to really realize what I’m experiencing and even find words.
And, even in this moment, I find it easier to write than to talk. I cannot articulate, out loud, what’s occurring, internally and externally.
So, I write.
Let me set this up for you.
On New Year's Eve, I was sitting on a couch in Denver at the home of one of my dearest friends (also a clinician). We had just watched the ball drop. There was music and dancing and laughter and toasts. I was taking it all in. Feeling the excitement of a new year with new energy.
I was so thankful that I was at this particular home: with the bi-lingual...
I hope this time of year finds you filled with connected time with family. This week, we cover the topic "family." It's a quick video, won't take long to watch. Yet, it's crucial to define what "family" means to you.
From my family to yours, I wish you the happiest of holidays this season. Try to find the moments of joy, peace, and connection during this stressful season.
Sending you love.
Go Be You,
Today's topics is one of those hard topics; one of those discussions that people shy away from. I hope that you will sit with this discussion and interact with me around this topic.
I see so many clients who have been traumatized by people using religion against them. I look forward to hearing your feedback and interaction on this topic.
Here's the link to the Holiday Tele-seminar I chatted about in our blog as well: https://www.gobeyou.org/offers/FRChghP5.
Thank you so much for your time during this really busy season.
Sending you copious amounts of love during this season and always.
Go Be You,
A support system is a crucial piece of navigating life's ups and downs. In today's blog we discuss the benefits of a support system as well as how to build one.
I'm holding all of you in my heart this season. December is filled with lots of sensory overload and SO MUCH co-regulation.
Here for ya. You're not alone.
Go Be You,
I hope the last week was filled with Thanks and connection time.
I had a wonderful holiday with my mother and my youngest sister and her family. I love any opportunity to reflect and give thanks for the many blessings I have.
This week, we discuss play. I often say, "What would you do if you had spare time? Would you hang out with people you don't like, doing things you aren't any good at?" The answer is no. When we have spare time, we want to fill it with play.
Play is the language of kids. So, we, as adults, need to make extra effort to play. We also have to understand that much of play is developmental. Babies aren't born knowing how to navigate a recess filled with so many kids and less supervision.
Play is especially important for emotional regulation during the holiday season. This week's blog covers all of that!
I mentioned the Holiday Tele-seminar I did a couple weeks ago in this video. The next 6 weeks are filled with all...
This last week has been anything but easy. Thank you so much for your heartfelt emails and kind words. Duke was loved by many!
This week I cover Limits. A limit is when we set a boundary for someone else. One of the things we forget to do with the kids in our lives is allow for them to have an emotional response to that limit.
Hopefully, this week's blog will help a bit with that topic.
In this blog, I also reference the Holiday Tele-seminar that I did last week. If you'd like access to it, just click here for all the details.
I am so thankful for all of you who continue on this journey with me.
Sending you so much thanks this week.
Go Be You,
Today we put our dog, Duke, down. He was about 12 years old. He's been part of our family for 8 years.
I really wanted to record and upload a video for you today with valuable information that was very impactful. Instead, I grieved. My kids and I reflected on the beautiful gift Duke was to our family.
We talked about our favorite memories. We cried together. We watched movies. We ate ice cream.
My son came to the vet with me and participated in putting Duke down. My daughter decided she didn't want to. She stayed at school during that time. We brought the school counselor into the discussion and he was so supportive.
Then, my son went back to school and my daughter missed the rest of the day.
I was reminded that everyone grieves differently. And, every human I know who has had a dog knows what a hard day it is. We created a lifelong memory today. I only hope that the trauma of the loss of Duke was mitigated somewhat by the gentle nature with...
Can you believe that we are already in November?
We know that the next two months are filled with all sorts of dysregulation...in our homes, our classrooms, and our office.
Oh, and ourselves!!
So, today's video is all about surviving the holidays. We chat about things to be aware of, how the unconscious stuff creeps in (trauma), and strategies you can use to get through this season (resilience).
Don't be fooled, this is a quick video that barely scratches the surface.
So, I'm offering a low-cost Holiday Survival Tele-seminar on Nov. 22, 2019. Just click here for more information and to register.
We can all use support and STRATEGIES during this time of year.
Look forward to chatting with you at the end of next week.
Go Be You,
Thanks for joining me this week.
We are talking about empathy. What is it? Do you withhold it? Do kids in crisis have it?
Enjoy this week's lesson. Feel free to share it with whomever you think may benefit.
Thanks again for all of your support.
Go Be You,
The power of repetition is necessary for all of us to grow, change, and create new skills. When it comes to closing and healing developmental gaps, repetition is a key element to success in addressing those gaps.
When it comes to working and living with kids and students, repetition is something we, as adults, forget about often. When the words, "how many times do I have to tell you" or "are we going to go over this again" drop out of our mouths, we forget that repetition is important so that kids can create the necessary skills for development.
Enjoy this week's blog as we cover the important of repeat experiences!
I have spent three days filming over the last week! I've got some great projects happening and I cannot wait to share them with you.
The final edits for the Trauma informed Handbook Guides are still in the works.
I know!! It seems to be taking forever...