Is anyone else trying to put into words their experiences over the last few days and weeks?
Here’s my attempt…
New words have floated into our lives:
Online remote learning
Somehow, these words carry a lot of fear. I am seeing it play out in my office (now virtual office), my home, my social media, my local schools, and my news feed.
As a mental health professional, my job is to hold the space for dysregulated humans as they work through whatever it is that brought them through the door to my office. When the entire world is dysregulated, that’s a whole lot of space to hold.
Here are some tools I’ve been using:
Scared, Helpless, Hopeless, Loss, Weight, Fear, Uncertainty, Disappointment, Anger, Paralyzed
These are all the words that my body has stored over the last several days.
As I sat down on Monday to record my weekly video blog, I just couldn’t follow through.
It’s taken me days to really realize what I’m experiencing and even find words.
And, even in this moment, I find it easier to write than to talk. I cannot articulate, out loud, what’s occurring, internally and externally.
So, I write.
Let me set this up for you.
On New Year's Eve, I was sitting on a couch in Denver at the home of one of my dearest friends (also a clinician). We had just watched the ball drop. There was music and dancing and laughter and toasts. I was taking it all in. Feeling the excitement of a new year with new energy.
I was so thankful that I was at this particular home: with the bi-lingual...
Can you believe that we are already in November?
We know that the next two months are filled with all sorts of dysregulation...in our homes, our classrooms, and our office.
Oh, and ourselves!!
So, today's video is all about surviving the holidays. We chat about things to be aware of, how the unconscious stuff creeps in (trauma), and strategies you can use to get through this season (resilience).
Don't be fooled, this is a quick video that barely scratches the surface.
So, I'm offering a low-cost Holiday Survival Tele-seminar on Nov. 22, 2019. Just click here for more information and to register.
We can all use support and STRATEGIES during this time of year.
Look forward to chatting with you at the end of next week.
Go Be You,
Thanks for joining me this week.
We are talking about empathy. What is it? Do you withhold it? Do kids in crisis have it?
Enjoy this week's lesson. Feel free to share it with whomever you think may benefit.
Thanks again for all of your support.
Go Be You,
The power of repetition is necessary for all of us to grow, change, and create new skills. When it comes to closing and healing developmental gaps, repetition is a key element to success in addressing those gaps.
When it comes to working and living with kids and students, repetition is something we, as adults, forget about often. When the words, "how many times do I have to tell you" or "are we going to go over this again" drop out of our mouths, we forget that repetition is important so that kids can create the necessary skills for development.
Enjoy this week's blog as we cover the important of repeat experiences!
I have spent three days filming over the last week! I've got some great projects happening and I cannot wait to share them with you.
The final edits for the Trauma informed Handbook Guides are still in the works.
I know!! It seems to be taking forever...
I am so proud of all the deep, hard emotional work you are doing. Thank you for spending time with me each week.
This week we explore emotional safety and trust.
I see eye contact as a privilege. When someone feels safe enough to give us eye contact, see that as a meaningful emotional connection.
We are going to look at our role in emotional safety for others.
Are we safe enough for people to feel their big feelings? Or, do we minimize feelings and send messages that shut people down?
Who do we talk to when we need someone to hold space for us? Why do we choose that person with whom to talk? How do we take those same traits and apply them to the relationships with the kids in our lives?
Whew! Big topic. Hopefully, these bite sized videos are stirring up some internal change. Thanks for being so brave!
Go Be You,
P.S. If you want to go even deeper into self discovery, overcoming trauma, and creating meaningful relationships...
Last week I received so much feedback about emotional regulation.
Many of you shared your stories with me and trusted me with pieces of your own journey. Thank you for sharing yourself. I am incredibly thankful for those of us who are willing to self reflect and work on our hard stuff.
Navigating the responsibility of parenting, educating, and providing therapy for the kids in our lives is a roller coaster.
We have to continue to support each other on this journey. It's hard work!
This week we discuss blueprints.
It's all about what we bring to the table when we interact with the children, students, and clients in our lives.
We cover important self-reflective questions that are necessary to answer so that we can have a deeper understanding of how we were wired way before we met the younger humans in our lives.
Without understanding how we learned emotional development or the parts of our past that need healing, we cannot show up for our kids in...
This is a HUGE week!
I am launching an online training site called...wait for it...
Go Be YOUniversity!
This is so exciting because it will give me a chance to bring all the training I do to one place. I am used to traveling all over the rural, western states. I do not have to do that anymore.
Once a week, I will be launching a new training video that will give you information on trauma, resiliency, and all sorts of things in between.
This week's topic is all about defining TRAUMA. It's such a complicated definition.
Watch the video to learn more.
Also, be sure you stay tuned in for the ENTIRE video. We have some great things happening at the end.
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Thanks for being a part of this community!
Go Be You,
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