"We are living in crazy times."
"How can I even begin to move forward in a normal way?"
"What is this world coming to?"
"Seems like every time I turn on the news, there's something worse happening."
Everyday, I am inundated with these questions, thoughts, concerns for the greater world that we live in. I'm with ya. I have those same concerns, too.
Some days, it's really easy to focus on the negative that's occurring in the bigger world around us. In reality, we have very little control over what happens in that bigger world, outside of us.
When we get really honest about that and recognize what we have control over, we come back to ourselves and the present moment.
All of our worries about future moments rob us from the moments that we are living right NOW.
But, Stacy, where do I even begin?
Here are a few tips to help you practice living in the current moment.
1. Think about your sensory system. When we are stressed, the most efficient way to emotionally regulate, is to engage your...
Happy New Year!!
We all survived 2020. It wasn't without loss or grief or going through really hard things. We are survivors!
If 2020 taught me anything, it's that connection and support are critical for human beings. It's a biological necessity to have a village of people who help us navigate life.
My word for 2021 is SUPPORT.
Thus, today's post...10 Ways I am Going to Support You in 2021!
Here we go....
1. FREE: Weekly Community of Connection via Zoom. Think of this as a space where you can ask questions or just connect with other people. The last two weeks has gone so awesome and been so valuable, I decided to make it a weekly commitment, every WEDNESDAY at 11am MST. You can drop in anytime between 11-12pm MST. The Zoom Meeting ID is: 434 254 1987. The password is: Resilience.
2. FREE: Weekly blog posts. Every week I will be posting valuable information to help you navigate parenting, educating, mental health-ing, and just getting through the day to day life. Be sure you...
Is anyone else trying to put into words their experiences over the last few days and weeks?
Here’s my attempt…
New words have floated into our lives:
Online remote learning
Somehow, these words carry a lot of fear. I am seeing it play out in my office (now virtual office), my home, my social media, my local schools, and my news feed.
As a mental health professional, my job is to hold the space for dysregulated humans as they work through whatever it is that brought them through the door to my office. When the entire world is dysregulated, that’s a whole lot of space to hold.
Here are some tools I’ve been using:
I started the morning at the school, asking to meet with a counselor before my daughter would agree to stay for the day. For weeks, she’s been navigating female friendships, mean girl stuff, and the struggle of communication between peers as a 12 year old.
I remember these years well. I remember the threat from a peer to beat me up because she thought I said something mean about her. I remember trying to wear the right clothes and do my hair the right way, all so I could fit in, which I never really feel like I did. As I reflect, I think it’s because no 12 year old girl really feels like she fits in. It’s part of the process of growing up.
As I hold this space with my own 6th grade daughter, I am trying so hard to show up for her, hear her, listen to her heart, support the individual person inside of her, play to her strengths, and show her empathy for the tough road of being a girl in middle school. Some days we navigate this beautifully. Other days it’s a...
I've written this post 6 times. I've deleted it. I started to record it. I deleted it.
I evaluated every topic I wanted to write or talk or teach about: the death of Selena Bell Not Afraid, why do people mourn for celebrities or famous people, a follow up from my last post-the Resiliency of America, and the brokenness of our mental health system.
All of these topics are important and meaningful. I have tons to say about each one of them.
And, yet, I deleted...all of it, every draft, every word, every sentence.
I have not posted in 3 weeks. I can't believe it! I've been so committed to showing up for you and I had huge challenges in that these last few weeks. I'm so sorry. You've been on my mind. I promise. Every. Single. Day. I look at my computer and think...I need to touch base with them. I need to connect. What can I teach? What do I have to offer? The answers came, and then they left.
So, I thought I'd get real with you.
What have I been doing?
Living. Surviving. Some...
Scared, Helpless, Hopeless, Loss, Weight, Fear, Uncertainty, Disappointment, Anger, Paralyzed
These are all the words that my body has stored over the last several days.
As I sat down on Monday to record my weekly video blog, I just couldn’t follow through.
It’s taken me days to really realize what I’m experiencing and even find words.
And, even in this moment, I find it easier to write than to talk. I cannot articulate, out loud, what’s occurring, internally and externally.
So, I write.
Let me set this up for you.
On New Year's Eve, I was sitting on a couch in Denver at the home of one of my dearest friends (also a clinician). We had just watched the ball drop. There was music and dancing and laughter and toasts. I was taking it all in. Feeling the excitement of a new year with new energy.
I was so thankful that I was at this particular home: with the bi-lingual...
I hope this time of year finds you filled with connected time with family. This week, we cover the topic "family." It's a quick video, won't take long to watch. Yet, it's crucial to define what "family" means to you.
From my family to yours, I wish you the happiest of holidays this season. Try to find the moments of joy, peace, and connection during this stressful season.
Sending you love.
Go Be You,
Today's topics is one of those hard topics; one of those discussions that people shy away from. I hope that you will sit with this discussion and interact with me around this topic.
I see so many clients who have been traumatized by people using religion against them. I look forward to hearing your feedback and interaction on this topic.
Here's the link to the Holiday Tele-seminar I chatted about in our blog as well: https://www.gobeyou.org/offers/FRChghP5.
Thank you so much for your time during this really busy season.
Sending you copious amounts of love during this season and always.
Go Be You,
A support system is a crucial piece of navigating life's ups and downs. In today's blog we discuss the benefits of a support system as well as how to build one.
I'm holding all of you in my heart this season. December is filled with lots of sensory overload and SO MUCH co-regulation.
Here for ya. You're not alone.
Go Be You,
I hope the last week was filled with Thanks and connection time.
I had a wonderful holiday with my mother and my youngest sister and her family. I love any opportunity to reflect and give thanks for the many blessings I have.
This week, we discuss play. I often say, "What would you do if you had spare time? Would you hang out with people you don't like, doing things you aren't any good at?" The answer is no. When we have spare time, we want to fill it with play.
Play is the language of kids. So, we, as adults, need to make extra effort to play. We also have to understand that much of play is developmental. Babies aren't born knowing how to navigate a recess filled with so many kids and less supervision.
Play is especially important for emotional regulation during the holiday season. This week's blog covers all of that!
I mentioned the Holiday Tele-seminar I did a couple weeks ago in this video. The next 6 weeks are filled with all...